When it comes to issues of the heart, you can sometimes feel helpless because you literally have no control over who you fall for. You are basically living life at the mercy for your heart and it’s choices. Sometimes they are good decisions and sometimes they are bad but however love is a beautiful experience that you should embrace no matter the circumstances under which it occurs.
Love can put you in situations that are complicated and difficult for you to navigate through. On many occasions women have found themselves in relationships that can be considered to not be “ideal”. There is always a frown look placed upon being in a relationship with a married man whether or not he is going to leave his wife.
Being in a relationship with a man that has not ended his marriage comes with a lot of complications, more so if his wife does not know that he is in another relationship. It is usually not a good idea to get into a relationship with a married man, but sometimes it is acceptable if you know his marriage is coming to an end. That would help soothe all the negative things that sometimes come with being in a relationship with a married man.
We don’t control who we fall in love with but being in a relationship with a married man can have you in a state of constantly waiting. Waiting for him to leave his wife, waiting for him to choose you over her, waiting for him to put your feeling above his, waiting for him to appreciate you the way he should, waiting for him to make more of whatever it is you both share – a constant state of waiting.
What is your situation? Has he promised to leave his wife and you can’t just help but wonder how long does for a man to truly leave his wife. In order to answer this question, you need to set apart or distinguish between two statements; that is, him divorcing his wife and him leaving his wife. These statements mean two different things and should not be mistaken or confused for each other. I will highlight the difference below:
Divorce, also known as dissolution of marriage, is the termination of a marriage or marital union, the canceling or reorganizing of the legal duties and responsibilities of marriage, thus dissolving the bonds of matrimony between a married couple under the rule of law of the particular country or state in which they got married.
It generally takes 10 to 12 months ( on average) to finalize a divorce from the date of the filing of the Complaint. Divorce is an emotional process just as much as a legal process and a case resolves when parties are able to get their emotions in order so they can come to the table and be reasonable.
On the other hand, him leaving his wife is simply him just choosing to be with you over her. All he has to do is make her aware of the fact that he doesn’t love her anymore and wants to be with you instead of her. He is not going to divorce his wife is he does not already spend all his free time with you, him doing so is a clear sign that he truly loves you and wants to leave his wife for you.
It doesn’t require any waiting time for him to leave his wife and be with you, this can literally happen in a split second. He can leave his wife and be with you as fast as possible if he truly wants to make such a decision.
Whatever the situation may be, it does not take any second for a man who loves you to leave his wife and be with you. If he has not done so, then maybe you need to ask yourself if he truly loves you the way he claims he does. The only slight exception to the matter is “Divorce” and even in that he should already be spend most of his time with you instead of his wife.